If the way you study at home is not working, then you need to speak to your parents and change your study environment to help your study habits get better. The first step is being honest with yourself. The second step is to drift away from all of the negative people that you are around in school and after school. You are at school to study hard to achieve your educational goals.
~~A recent survey shows that worldwide, America rates 25th in educating it’s young. The education the average black child gets is useless in any other nation on earth because they are not taught the social skills any child should have at any given age as well as the educational level. This is due to teachers grading students on a proficiency curve and not on a performance base criteria and the lack of parents taking part in their children education. The average Chinese student goes to school 12 hours per day and studies after school as well. The average Asian student studies 12 to 15 hours per week after school. The average white student studies 8 to 12 hours per week after school. The average black student studies 45 minutes per week after school. The poor class of people in the U.S. is not much better than the rating of the average black students and this is due lack of parents taking part in their children education.
Improve yourself in these subjects. These things that are expected from an individual at this stage of your life. All successful adults use most of these procedures in their daily life. In college, employment and socializing, these are important traits to have and use. They will help you get good grades and be an adult who is a productive citizen.
# 1. Be in school every day. It is your job that pays you in education. It does not matter what you do for a living. It does matter how educated a person is to deturmine how well the person does in the feild that they choose. Which leads to the quaility of life that person will be living for the rest of their lifes. The saying, birds of a father stay together, is true. If your fellow students see you as being dependable, then they will be dependable too. The students that want to be around you will respect you and be there for you in your hard times. You will be thought of being a student who is loyal and appreciates their self and their community. Be highly motivated because highly motivated people are good hard working students who knows how important a good education really is. Always get a lot of rest the night before work. Know how and when to listen. There is a time to speak and a time to listen. Successful students block out sounds around them when something important is being said.
# 2. Be friendly and smile at the student that you have eye contact with. People who go around with a smile attract other people. People avoid other persons who have frowns or negative attitudes. This helps increase your ability to accept others and to be accepted by other students. Speaking to others helps you build an image of being friendly. If you are around someone for more than several minutes, then introduce yourself. This helps create a positive work place. There are a lot of lonely people who don’t get spoken to.
# 3. If you keep a positive attitude, then people will want to be around you. When people ask how are you, reply with something positive, like I am good and how are you? Be positive when things are going wrong because a person with a positive attitude can change things around and make things that is wrong, go right. People will make your life easier or better when you least expect it, just because you are positive.
# 4. Respect others at school like you would want to be respected. Set some rules for yourself that you are going to live by. If you don’t use abusive language, then other people around you will too. Don’t be a bully. Abusive language and bulling is for people who need to feel big, and want to impress other people, because the other people is, most likely smarter then they are. Be supportive and tolerant of other personalities. Never put people down, always find the positive side in someone. Just because someone is a different race, religion or have different ideas, it does not mean that you could not get along with each other.
# 5. Be an honest and trustworthy student. Your word is all that you have. If you cannot do something, do not be afraid to admit it. If you tell someone that you are going to do something, then do it. People need to know that you will do what you say. People must have confidence in you. Stay away from gossip. The old saying, birds of a father flock together, is true. Rumors can become dangerous; you can lose the respect that you had work hard to get. Once people loose respect for you it is hard and is difficult to earn back.
# 6. Do not be shy to ask for help. It takes a lot of courage to tell someone that you do not know. People will respect you more. You will find out that you are not the only student who needed to know the answer to your question
# 7. Your personal hygiene and appearance must be clean and neat. Do not go to school without washing up and wearing fresh clothes. Even if you come from a poor family, you can still be clean and neat.
# 8. Never use alcohol or drugs. It does slow you down from getting a good education. Most likely just by hanging around fellow students who do use drugs, can stop you from achieving your goals and dreams of being who or doing what you really want to do as an adult.
# 9. Never borrow from others. You will get a bad reputation fast. People will shy away from you if you do not have a really good relationship established. Give an example.
# 10. Never give up or quit and find a solution. If the studies seem too difficult get help in order to finish your work.
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Lessons for Being Accepted in Employment, College, and Society
Being Accepted in Employment, College, and Society
Information gathered by David Dawn
It is time that you really start thinking about your retirement or how you would like to live when that time comes. Do you want to be in a poverty level or do you want to live in a middle class level or better? At this age it is totally up to you. You cannot blame anyone for the decisions that you will make to bring about the type of life you choose to live because you are now of age to decide what is best for you. If you see that you cannot live the life style that you really want to live, then, move to a place as to where you can live the way that you want. You may have to get away from your friends and family in order to do this. The point is, that you can do whatever you really want to do with your life and only you choose to stay in bad environments. Be it for the fun, excitement, fast money or whatever, it is you choice and your life.
Wherever you go to work and school there is a dress code. There is even one for society and these rules must be followed in order to learn, work, or live around these environments. By following the dress codes, you will find doors that will open up for you to receive the benefits of opportunities that will come your way in life.
There are jobs, schools and communities with very little dress codes. These places most of the time pay very little money or do not teach or care much about self-respect. Now, keep in mind that living a life like this, it is very hard to save money, plan a trip without being short on money or living around poor people who are doing worse then you are and so some of them will take whatever you may have so they could eat or pay their bills. There are adults who live their life like this and are happy with it. If this is the type of life that you want to live in and raise your family in, well then take the easy way when it comes to learning and following the rules of society.
If you do not want this type of life which is called the poverty level then you must work hard in school to get good grades so you can get a job that will pay you a good wage to live in the middle class of citizens.
If you do want to live a life not wishing that you had the money to live in a nice place, drive a nice car, not worry about having money to pay the rent, utilities, buy the food that you really want, raise a family and give your family what they need in order to live a happy life. You will need a half way descent job just to barely get by with getting your basic needs and wants met. In order to get a half way descent, job you will need at least a high school education.
Here are some ways to represent yourself in society, with employers and in schools. They expect to see the best come out of you in order to be accepted in the different social environments that you will encounter in your daily life and at the different ages in your life. These are important habits to have to use in your everyday social habits.
Taking notes in school or in a training class for the job is very important. I have seen a lot of people lose their job just because they was not remembering the procedures of the company. Students drop out of school because they are falling behind on school work due to not taking notes in class. A lot of people think that they are so smart that they can remember everything that is being taught to them. Well the mind does not work lie that. In a training class there is so much material that is being given to you that most people will forget over 50% of the things that is taught to them. Especially if it involves a procedure with many steps. Then you must go over your notes to refresh your mind and to remember some of the things that you did not have time to take notes on. Your employer will be impressed about the material that you did remember and they will think of you for special jobs or promotion’s. The usage extent of note taking will determine what class or life you will live in. As well as having a positive attitude for your job and if you are a student your job is learning with a positive attitude.
Here is some things you might want to work on;
1. Smile ---- People who go around with a smile attract other people. People avoid other people who have frowns or negative attitudes. I am not saying that you have to go around smiling all of the time. When you are greeting people or when the other person says something positive or having eye to eye contact, then, yes, smile (it is a way of saying hi). These are examples of times to give at least a little smile. It tells the other person that you accept them or understand what they are talking about. It also makes the other person feel comfortable talking with you and they will accept being with you in a positive way.
2. Be friendly ---- Increase your ability to accept others and you will learn a thing or two about the reasons for or why things are and the way they are. You need to be accepted by other people in order to live a positive and peaceful life. Being accepted in employment, college and society is the key to moving ahead to achieve your goals. Be supportive and tolerant of other personalities. If someone comes to you and starts telling you about their problems, take a moment to hear what they have to say. They will befriend you that much more. Different races have different jesters or social habits. Take the time to be friendly and you will learn something new. Never put people down, always find the positive side in someone. If you get a reputation of talking about people then that will come back to you in a very negative way. Just because someone is a different race, religion or have different ideas, it does not mean that you could not get along with each other.
3. Keep a positive attitude ---- When people ask how are you, reply with "I am good and how are you?" When you have eye-to-eye contact with someone then say something like "hi", A lot of times people will not talk back to you but at least you tried and you know that they are the one with a problem. Be positive when things are going wrong, because a person with a positive attitude can help find a solution to change things around and make things going wrong, go right. A lot of people are negative or have negative reactions because of the problems that they are dealing with and most of the time it is not about you. You are being watched all of the time and those people who see that you can put a positive light on a negative situation will open doors of opportunity for you. The people watching can and might at some time down the road make your life easier or better when you least expect it, just because you are a positive person.
4. Personal hygiene ---- Your appearance must be clean and neat. Follow the standard dress code of the environment. Even if you are poor you still can be clean. Your appearance shows what type of person you are. If you are untidy, then most likely your home is untidy. Do not go to work, school or a social meeting without washing up and wearing fresh clothes. Ask yourself: "would I like it if someone came to me to talk and I could see the food between their teeth, smell their bad breath, underarms and maybe even the clothes that they had on since yesterday." Even if you keep yourself clean, as a smoker you cannot smell yourself, but a nonsmoker can.
5. Never use alcohol or drugs ---- on or around the job, in school or if you are at a social meeting. You will get fired if on the job. You will miss out on what the teacher is teaching if you are in school or a training class. Do not have it for lunch or at company celebrations. Your peers and supervisors will think more of you in the future.
6. Respect others on the job, in school and at social meetings like you would want to be respected ---- You have your private-self and your public-self. You need to always show your public self. Your private self is for your family and friends out of the public eye. Set some rules for your public self that you are going to live by like:
(a) using no abusive language,
(b) always being friendly,
(c) always keep a good personal hygiene
(d) always stay positive
If people see you being that way with yourself and others, then other people will respect you as well and may be open up some doors that will help you advance. For those who are not that way, they will start to change to be like you in due time.
7. Be on the job and in school every day without being late ---- Be on the job and in school every day without being late ---- Employers are looking for people they can depend on. If your coworkers see you as being dependable then you will be picked to do special projects. You will be thought of being an employee who is loyal and appreciates their job. If you are not satisfied with your job or school, then use it as a stepping stone and think of it as being temporary until you complete your goal or find something better, then step on to what you really want to do. As long as you stay on the job for at least a year, you will be able to use them as a good reference for getting a better job.
8. Speak to people ---- Speaking to others helps you build an image of being friendly. Speak clearly and look the person or people that you are talking to in the eye. Do not be the one to shy away. If you are around someone for more than several minutes, then introduce yourself. This helps create a positive and friendly work place. There are a lot of lonely people who do not get spoken to. When most people walk by a handicapped person and have eye-to-eye contact they say nothing. Change that when you have eye-to-eye contact with any one... say hi. Even if they do not say anything back at least you are being positive and respectful in your life.
9. Be honest and trustworthy ---- If you cannot do something, do not be afraid to admit it. If you are in school and do not know the right answer, speak up to learn the right answer. Even though you are embarrassed about asking questions on the job or in school. The odds are you are not the only one who does not know the answer. If you tell someone that you are going to do something, then do it and you will be seen as being dependable. Your word is what means a lot to society and you should be able to back up your word 98% of the time (the 2% is for the unexpected things that stops you from holding to your word, which does happen every now and then). People must have confidence in your honesty and know that you are trustworthy if you wish to stay employed or to keep friends.
10. Always do the best you can and a little more work that is not asked of you --- If you do the best you can it may not start out as being a really good job but if you do this year after year your best will be more than enough and people will show their appreciation in many different ways. You may start work a little early, work through your lunch or stay a little after work to do a little extra or train yourself for a different job with in that company. It does not matter what your reason is for, the management will take notice that you are doing more than what is just required and they will show their appreciation in one way or the other, most of the time.
11. Do not be shy to ask for help ---- It takes a lot of courage to tell someone that you do not know. People will respect you more for asking how it is done and you will learn that much more. Everyone needs help when they are learning something new. For example, lot of people get bad backs from not asking for help when lifting heavy things.
12. Stay away from gossip ---- Birds of a father flock together. You should not ignore people who are negative but do not hang around them all of the time because you might become negative too or be labeled as a gossiper. Rumors can become dangerous you can lose the respect that people have for you which is difficult to earn back. It takes years to build up a respectful reputation and only minutes to destroy it.
13. Know how and when to listen ---- There is a time to speak and a time to listen. You do not want to be labeled as a know-it-all or a bragger. Successful people block out sounds around them when something important is being said. When in a social meeting let other people speak and do not interrupt them as they speak. Be supportive and tolerant of other personalities. If someone comes to you and starts telling you about their problems take a moment to listen and hear what they have to say. Be a sounding board to them. They will befriend you that much more. Never put people down or be negative to the person and always find the positive side in someone.
14. Never borrow from others ---- Be it money, tools, writing materials or whatever. Always come prepared with the tools needed to do the job. You will get a bad reputation fast. People will shy away from you if you do not have a really good relationship established. If you do borrow something and then if you lose it, break it or even if someone else breaks it while it is in your possession, you are responsible for replacing it. When this happens and you do not replace it, then most of the time people will not lend things again because they think it will happen again and people will start avoiding you in your time of need.
15. Learn about the company you are working for ---- Find out how the company is ran, the goals and the procedures that is used in each different level of the company to move up in that company. Check out pay scales, necessary qualifications, and tasks. Start work a little early, work through your lunch or stay a little after work to do a little extra or train yourself for a different job. Know the job of the people below and above you. If you know how to do the jobs that are around you, you will be able to assist anybody if needed. One day, somebody will be absent and they will need someone to fill-in and it might be you because of the extra effort you had put in to know about that job. It does not matter what your reason is, management will take notice that you are doing more than what is just required and they will show their appreciation in one way or the other, most of the time.
16. Be highly motivated ---- Highly motivated people are prime candidates for promotion. Always get a lot of rest the night before work so you are always doing your best.
17. Watch the people who are successful and copy their behavior ---- Ask them to teach you in your spare time before or after work or during your lunch time. Prepare yourself, one day they might need someone to do that job. One day they may be absent or very late. Speak up and volunteer to do their job and take advantage of the opportunity.
18. Talk to your supervisor, lead person or manager and hold conversations with this person ---- Show your interest in different jobs around the company. Always give your suggestion when asked. Ask them what you might need to do to learn more.
19. Volunteer for overtime ---- This means more money in your pay check. When overtime is recommended take it. Once you have proven yourself opportunities will come your way.
20. Never give up or quit ---- Find a solution and ask if you do not know. If the job seems too difficult, bear it out. Be a person who always finishes his or her job.
I use a lot of these things in my everyday life and I find that doors are still opening up for me just about every were I go just because I am motivated, on time, seldom quit, I do not gossip, I am a good sounding board, I never borrow, I am honest and trustworthy and not shy to ask question on any subject. If you make these things your second nature or a habit you will find the good unexpected things happening to you too.
Lifecycles of Runaways
Being with your family in your later teens is a very important time in your life because you are transforming from a teenager to an adult. This is the time to mold yourself as far as learning about adulthood, learning about what responsibilities you will have and how to deal with them and controlling your emotions. It is all about getting ready to be rational and responsible adults to live on their own and be productive citizens. Most teenagers who run away from home come to find out that they have made a mistake.
We must change ourselves first and be happy with the changes and the environment around us to be able to help the people around us. You are not by yourself in this world. Everybody goes through basically the same things as you do. Have basically the same problems as you do. This is a time were you need to control your emotions the most and be a young adult who will deal with their family issues as a young adult. Facing your problems showing respect for others and yourself. Not taking the easy way out by running away, which in reality is the harder way out. You only have a few years left to go and you will be on your own, soooo hang in there and do it right.
This lecture is geared for helping the young to become focused on the important aspect of life: get ready to be adults living on their own and be a productive citizen to get a good job to raise a family. This information covers the hardships of supporting yourself and issues you must endure. The young people must realize that if they do as they are told by their parents and other adults, they will go much farther in life compared to choosing the way of being rebellious and self- centered. Most of the procedures in the many different issues of being an adult has all read been proven to work in a certain way. Don’t waste your time trying to find a new way of doing something when it has been already proven and shown to be the best way to get the job done.
Educating and Inspiring Young Adults for Self-Improvement
Created by Stephanie M. Rogers and David Dawn
This lecture is geared in helping the young adults to become focus mentally on the important aspect of life, which is to get them self-ready to be adults living on their own and be a productive citizen. The young people must realize that if they do as they are told by their parents and other adults that they will go much farther in life in getting a good job, making money and raising a family. Compared to choosing the way of being rebellious and self-centered.
At your age you need your independence. It is true that you are living in a different time era compared to your parents. You must remember that in the basic cycles of social mannerism in life stays the same. Yes, you live in a world of technology but the basic way of living or the social manners or the way we are accepted in society is still the same. You must have trust in what you had been taught throughout your life. Getting older is really about having more control over your emotions and urges. You must:
Think before you respond ---- If someone offends you, do not come back at them in the same manner. When someone comes to you for support, listen to them and give them support in them knowing what is the right thing to do. Do not lead them only one way, give them options and let them decide what to do about their own life. It is called a sounding board, be one.
Always complete work ---- Do not do shabby work because when you complete your work your coworkers will think of you as a hard worker and the further you will go in the work place, doors of opportunity will open up for you. If you are at home, you would be teaching this to the kids and leading through example.
Never speak negative of the people around you ---- What you say could be used against you later. It is a procedure that is used with disgruntle co-workers to twist words around and to make you look bad in front of management.
Know yourself ---- Set time limits and be consistent with discipline of staying with your schedule and procedures. Do not over load yourself with promises and assignments because you will find yourself not being able to get everything accomplished. Work hard at making the changes within yourself, at work, with finances or whatever the problem may be.
Rules ---- Once you make a rule for yourself, stick to it. Your kids and everyone around you are watching you, to see if you are a person of your word. If you are not, then everybody starts to loose respect for you. Out of everything else your word is the strongest bond that anyone has with society. All teachers and mentors lead through the example of doing as you teach or action speaks louder than words.
Each new day is the reason and time to change ---- Improve, renew or give a second chance for change to yourself or someone you love. Once you start seeing the change(s), you will find yourself happier and feel much better about yourself.
Make your learning fun and not stressful ---- You need to do this with a positive manner. Your attitude in life makes or breaks your day. Endurance mentally, physically and spiritually will pay off in the long run financially.
Listen to what your family and friends say ---- Use what is best for you from their suggestions. Control your emotions in all situations.
You need to keep an open mind for new ideas and techniques that might help you. The day you think that you cannot learn something new is the day you start holding yourself back and the world will start passing you by.
By the time the average person who lives in the fast life wakes up, they are 10 years behind those who played by societies rules. They will be lucky to have a career at 30, while the grads or people who got a GED will start in their 20’s. This also means that their kids will suffer living in a poor class family. The odds of your children following your way of life is great. In fact, it is most likely, you are following your parent’s way of life as well.
This is a fact, most teenagers who ran away from her home to seek out a new life for their self-come to find out that they had made a mistake and at that time they have too much pride and live a life of self-denial. These kids normally end up having babies and fall in to the criminal world doing whatever they can just to survive. They start hanging around people who make the fast and easy money because the teenager needs a roof over their head, food in their stomach and money to spend. They figure they will not get caught only to find out that eventually you will get caught and thus creating a criminal record that will stay with you forever and it will haunt you when you try to look for a job or go to school and now in these days it could affect your quality of living which could will end up ruining their lives forever. 7-12 CNN claims that the unemployment rate for whites is 7.5% and the rate for blacks is 14.2%.
It is very important for young adults of color think about their future and step up and change your ways of living.
Many do not realize that it is never too late to go back home and finish the time of growing up and turning in to a young adult with the wisdom and knowledge of their parents so that they will have a better idea of how to have patience and know how important it is to follow orders to get and keep a job. All of this is for their own good so they can live better life when they get their own. The grass always looks greener on the other side, until you get there. Most youngsters find out most of the time the grass is not greener and the ground below has deep mud.
The Historian Dr. John A. Clark which really tells it all and if you really listen to it you will have begun to see the light of our ancient ancestors. Dr. Clarks most famous quote is, “History is a clock that the people use to tell their cultural and political time of day and history is a compos people use to find their selves on the map of human geography. History tells the people who they were and where they were as well as whom they are and where they are. The most important roll of history is to tell the people where they must go and where they must be. The relationship between a person and history is the same as the relationship between a child and its mother.”
History brings the past, present and the future together as one, as the Kemet philosophy states, the past, present and future is one because history is life. That is why we need to learn how to stop the negative patterns and cycles with in our life and the only way to do this is to know our true history from great grand ma and great grand pa to our mother and father and be honest with our self. For example, why you were taught the things you were taught by your parents? Why your parents did not give you the things other kids had? Why did your mother and father act as they did? Why did your mother raise you? Why did your older brother or sister act as they did? Why did your brother hang with bad people? Why did your sister use drugs? Why did you start smoking? Think about why your grandparents and parents lived as they did which installed the habits and thought patterns you have today. What was missing in their lives and what is missing in your life? Why are you living as you are and not as you really want to be living? How are you going to get paid to raise your family? What is it going to be like when you reach retirement? Answer the questions that fit you or any other questions you may have about yourself, but you need to be honest with yourself to see the truth. Only then you will see what is needed to be changed to improve your life.
The cycles of your daily life, are the habits and routines you use every day which is and has a ripple effect in your life. These habits and routines are passed down from parent to child, to grandchild and to great grandchild. This is the ripple effect that I’m referring to in this world of cycles that could never end if they are not discovered by a parent or young adult and changed or stopped. There are cycles for everything which is mental, physical, social, the past, present and future, spiritual, the environment and that happens in every different aspect in every part of you. Cycles are in all of these things and they all are connected and in twined.
It is a scientific fact, that from infancy to the age of ten, the way that the child is raised which includes the standard education and family habits is the same way they will be as an adult in their late 20’s on. This is because these habits, patterns and cycles is in planted in their subconscious mind.
It does not matter what age you are with criminal records on individuals start adding up fast and that means in the eyes of the law, society and employers that you are a habitual criminal. Even though there was no robbery or murder and most of the crimes were very petty but they added up. This then gives the employers an excuse not to hire you. It also makes sure that you will have a lot harder time getting a good paying job because of your criminal record which stays with you for life. Having a bad record slows you down in becoming a good provider for your family.
It is important to talk and not yale at whom you are agitated with be it in your neighborhood or at work. It is important to talk with reason and explain about the reason for being troubled. Do not scare them with a loud or mean voice, it just puts them on the defensive and then things may accelerate in to you loosing your job or the whole thing is turned around due to your attitude. Ask them why did they do what they did? If you talk with them they will talk back. It helps that if you sit down and get eye level with them because they will feel less threaten.
Our lives are affected by the world around us with the rules and beliefs of society, our family, our friends, our work place and our religion. Each one of these influences creates cycles which intertwine with one another. We must live our lives with these cycles to make things work for our self. It is very important for we to learn as much as possible through education. We need to have a better understanding of the rules and expectation of employers, our government, organizations, and society. You must break the negative cycles that are in your daily life. Consciousness of our future will show you where we want to be 50 years down the road or what you may want for our grandchildren. We need to know who we are, how we got here and where we are going, in order to be a person who knows where we will be 50 down the road.
It is true, that at your age you do need your independence. That does not mean to forget about all the things you have been taught. You must have trust in what you had been taught throughout your life. Always complete work. A person can be judged by the way and how clean they keep them self, their car, and their work area. It is a fact that you can judge most of the time a person’s home and habits are as clean as what you see in public. Do not do shabby work because when you complete your work your coworkers will think of you as a hard worker and the further you will go in the work place. Never speak negative of the people around you. What you say could be used against you later.
Know your time limits and be consistent with the discipline of staying with your schedule and procedures. Once you make a rule for yourself, stick to it. Each new day is the reason and time to change, improve, renew or give a second chance for the change within yourself. You need to make your learning fun and not stressful. You need to do this in a in a positive manor.
You need to listen to what your family and friends say then use the part of the information that is best for you. When helping a friend change, suggest ways, do not tell them and show them how it is working for you. You need to keep an open mind for new ideas and techniques that might help you. All teachers and mentors lead through the example of doing as they teach or remember the words, action speaks louder than words. So if you work hard at making the changes within yourself, at work, with finance or whatever the problem may be. Once you start seeing the change you will find yourself happier and feeling much better about yourself.
Once you become an adult and have these habits installed within you, you will be a very successful individual. Once you have a strong sense of self-worth it creates the will power to improve yourself and it will ripple out to those around you. You need to teach and show your friends the way to develop a strong respectful adult relationship with the opposite sex. You need to teach as well as show your friends the means to change the cycles of all of their negative emotional habits that keep our souls earthbound in a self-created ego prison with the bars molded out of negative thoughts or bad habits. Any limitations that we perceive are only in our minds. Change your thoughts and you change your life in to developing a positive self. This would lead to living a much better life and achieving your goals.
You must start getting in the habit of saving money from the time that you get your 1st pay check. You need to pay yourself first by putting 25 to 100 dollars each pay day away in savings. You should install within yourself the need and habit to save a percentage of every check you get. You need to be thinking about spending wisely and how to budget for your monthly bills. So that you do not dip into the savings. If you do this you will not, find yourself going in to your savings to make ends meet.
Our life is affected by the world around us, with the rules and beliefs of society, our family, our friends, our work place and our religion. Each one of these influences creates cycles which intertwine with one another. We must live our lives with in these cycles to make things work. It is very important for you to learn as much as possible through education and you do not want to waste your time reeducating yourself at a later age. You need to have a good understanding of the rules and expectation of employers, our government, organizations and society. This is why you must break the negative cycles that are in your daily life.
Consciousness of your future will show you where you do want to be 50 years down the road. You need to know who you are; how you got here and where you are going in order to be a person who knows where they will be in the future and knows the future of their grandchildren. We need to change this cycle of fear of the churches, government and our social media. You can do this and really believe in our self as an individual. Remember Self-reliance is self-respect.
Educating and Inspiring Black Men for Self-Improvement
Created by Stephanie M. Rogers and David Dawn
The distant past and the present time is what I really want to address in this lecture. I put this lecture together in hope it would help enlighten the people who will listen and learn something new about our past. This will give you the inspiration to change the way you look at our society, religion and organizations and to plan ahead for yourself and your children. A lot of the information provided is not common knowledge to the black race. This is due to several things like; religion, the lack of willingness to get out of your comfort zone, being socially brain washed to believe that the history that was taught to the people is the only history of the world. The people of America and Europe are not taught in depth and the history does not focus on the important aspects of our ancient ancestors.
There is a lot of young blacks and adults that is closed minded. They know very little or care very little about the slave trade days, because it happened so long ago or because they feel that their ancient past has no history. Blacks feel like this for several reasons. The elites in the White race has hidden it all of this information from the history books and yet, there is different types of organizations, individuals and races that are learning, teaching and profiting off of the ancient history of the black race. I will show you our ancient ancestors who are from the Kemet Civilization. By not knowing our real and very true history it affects all of the people of the world as an individual and a race because we all feel the same way. The slavery of black people did start long before the Civil War and in fact, it is still going on today. Slaves were for physical labor and as that ended the elite found a way to keep the black race as slaves. The difference is that the black race is now economic slaves.
The ancient history of the Kemet Civilization is new to the people in America, but is common knowledge in the Mediterranean area. There is a lot of information about the Kemet history that cannot be addressed due to the information is still being excavated. There are a lot of young blacks and adults that is closed minded and they know very little or care very little about the slave trade days because it happened so long ago or because they feel that their ancient past has no history. I will show you our ancient ancestors who are from the Kemet Civilization. Go to the Kemet web-site and then the Lecture Page to learn more about Ancient Black history.
This information shows what the wisdom of the Kemet Nation gave the modern day world written recorders, religion, philosophy, government administration, physics, the language we speak today, arts, printing, discovery of the world, literature, emancipation, the science of structures, the cosmos and the metaphysical principles of life. All of these things were taken from Egypt as the America and European history shows, or should I say ancient Kemet via the conquerors of the world.
The information below is directed to Black men because out of all of the other races the Black race needs to be changed the most. Black men need to change their negative habits, manners, and thought. The thought of living the fast life has been inspired in all races and history shows this as a fact, but in today’s modern times the fast life is effecting the Black youths the most.
The European and American history has taught blacks of both continents to be slaves, first physically and now economically and mentally. They have inbred into the hip hop world and black race thinks its ok to call each other nigger or just like it is ok to call each other bitch. It has gotten to the point that these names are being used for their own friends and family members. It is not ok because it belittles not only the individual but the entire race in the cosmetic type of way. It adds negativity with in and around you which effects everyone who is around you in one way or another.
Rather than calling each other nigger, which everyone knows the negative meaning of the word. We should be calling each other Negus which actually means the King of Emperors Ruler of the Land. This is what Ethiopian Kings were called in the up till the late 1800’s. Then they stopped calling themselves Negrus and took on the European word King or Ruler. This was due to the colonialization of Africa. So the black men need to lead the way in changing this negative cycle to a positive cycle which in turn will bring more positive things into your life, for example, it will give you more respect for yourself, knowing that you’re being addressed with a royal name versus a low down disgraceful name like Nigger. It will subconsciously attract more positive people opportunities and habits with your social world.
The Black race has been called several different names in Europe and America and with these names comes different types of Black Americans and Europeans. What do you call yourself Negro, Colored, black, nigger or Afro-American?
The Negro- Does not care about what happens to the black race because they are happy with what they are getting out of our system. It’s like throwing a bone from the dinner table.
The Nigger- Puts down his race and believes in himself only. This is the greed that has been installed into blacks through generations of economic hardships and division within the family.
The Colored- Happy with what they have but cares more for the struggle of his race more than the Negro. This is the subconscious coming out of the person due to history of hardships that have been told about and witnessed. This brings about the need for change.
The Blacks- are willing to fight for their rights within our nation to promote self -pride as a race, self- improvement, harmony, respect and love for each other as a race.
The African-American- willing to fight for the rights of blacks all around the world because they know the history of the Kemet Civilization and that the blacks ruled the world and can do it again.
In the 1800’s and before the rulers of Ethiopia were called Negus King of Kings and Empires. Then the whites came along and changed Negus to Nigger to reverse the meaning and suppress our race subconsciously. That is why the Nigger is greedy like the conquerors of the world today. Sooo, are you a Negus or a Nigger?
I would like to address the responsibilities of young men getting young ladies pregnant at an early age. It is standard in our society, no matter what race we are referring to, to have sex at an early age just to see if it can be done. College sororities and gangs is known to make games out of it and promoting each other in social status over sex. But in doing this people tend to forget about the responsibilities or affect that having sex may have. A lot of people think that it’s a game, until they wind up being a parent, then reality sets in to the responsibilities and the risks of having sex. The cycle needs to be changed. Granted there are young men that are slowly waking up to this but it is happen too slow.
It is the responsibility of the young man in any race to lead as an example to break this cycle of babies raising babies. With abortion being acceptable these days, it is totally different when a young man gets a girl pregnant. No responsibility is being taken by the man, who has hopes that she will just have an abortion. Then there is the woman who has been having so much sex just to be accepted in their social world, that she really does not know who the real father is. This is not ok or acceptable. People have sex for many different reasons. The main reasons people have sex is to attract or keep someone they are attracted to. With these reasons and many others, comes a lot of different issues. In the world of the fast life, men know if they get a girl pregnant, that girl for the next 18 years will have feelings for him, just because he her child’s father. During this time there are a lot of mental, physical and financial games that are being played. This is normally done to reinforce a male chauvinist way of living. If you look back into the history of the American and European male you will see that it is all about domination in every aspect of life, so subconsciously speaking, we actually tend to act, feel and respond in a male chauvinistic way towards ladies. It’s in the media, in the TV shows, in the Hip Hop/ Rap music and even in our churches. All of this leads to the male thing that disrespecting the mother of your child is ok.
I know now in this day in age that a lot of young people are “different” from the normal productive citizen. This is a true statement, you are different. That is due to this modern day technology which brings a higher intellectual idealism of self- worth, but as far as social mannerism is concerned, you are no different than any other productive citizen in the US. You are expected to do and be responsible as any other adult, towards your family, neighbors and community.
To be a productive parent (whether the child is yours or not), you must treat that child in a non- abusive manner. This means in a mental, physical, financial and social manner in order for them to be a well- rounded student in the educational arena. For example, if you curse at your child all the time, the kids will mimic that in public or if you are abusive to your child when disciplining, your child will be abusive to other children in the schoolyard. The parents of this modern day time and era, rely on the teacher to teach their children about social mannerisms. In reality, it is not the teacher’s job to teach the kids about social mannerisms. It is the responsibility of the parents. This is why it is so important that you must teach your children social mannerisms at home. Mannerisms like, eating with your mouth closed, being respectful to everyone, sharing, talking out of turn, covering your mouth when sneezing or coughing, etc, etc, etc. By not teaching your child this, the effect would be getting notifications from the school about your child misbehaving which usually leads to the child being kicked out of school and not graduating if not corrected by the parents. The Teacher’s job is to teach what is in the class agenda, which depends on whatever grade level they are at. There is a lot of educational things that needs to be taught to the kids on these modern times. So to have the teacher stop the class due social issues, not only affects that student, but the entire class. If this is not corrected, when the child gets 8 years and older this will lead to having the police taking action against your child. Mainly for miner things but if not put in check it could lead to major things, if not the death of your child by the police or another child.
It is very important that when you find the right woman that you take time to actually be a parent. The most valuable thing you can give any child is your knowledge and time. They will remember that more than any other game or toy you can buy. In their later years, they will be more grateful for the time you had given them. Reading is a big key in education with any child and it is up to the parent to see that the child reads, spells, and writes at the proper age. There is a national statistic that states, if a child is up to par in reading writing and spelling, and the particular age group they are in, they will graduate from high school. The odds of them living a very productive life as society expects them will be greater. The lack of reading, writing and spelling will guarantee that their children or child will not graduate and will be susceptible to the fast life. This is due to the lack of self -confidence within the child. As they go through life they will find out that they are less educated than their fellow students. Thus, giving them a self-complex, steering them into the fast life.
In response, there are actually worse things out there than becoming a young father, Like AIDS, Syphilis, HIV, Herpes, diseases that there are no cures for, etc, etc, etc. Having sex is a huge decision for all of us to make and understanding the repercussions are just as important as the sex itself. Having a baby or getting a young woman pregnant is not the worst thing in the world. However, running away from the issue, denying the woman and or child or simply ignoring the issue altogether (hoping this will make the young woman have an abortion), is not the solution. Life is going to happen, no matter how you handle and respond to these difficult situations. It is what you do about the issue that develops a strong male figure. I believe this is one of the main causes of destruction in our black families today. So to put it simply, we need to love and support each other no matter what decision you and your partner make, make it together and support each other through it. I believe in turn this will lead to stronger family units and stronger men and leaders in our community. Remember, a Negus, leader, father, mentor and brother, you must use all 12 of these things to be a well-rounded man;
1. Teach your children the true Black History of our ancestors. Do not allow the slavery era in America continue to keep us in mental slavery today.
2. Read to your children, be their first teacher. Everything starts in the home.
3. Respect yourself and family, put the GOD of your choice and family first. No one is perfect. We all are born in to a sinful world. It is how we handle these situations that define who we are.
4. Doing what you want, but staying in the realm of social mannerism.
5. Getting your priorities together to achieve your goals. Learn your true family history to see why the family that you were raised in had the negative cycles that was passed to you.
6. Changing your negative habit and life cycles into positive ones.
7. Believing that this is a world of mind over matter. Believing that you have the will power within you to change.
8. Controlling your emotions in all situations.
9. Make a plan and stick with it through the end for all situations.
10. Keep an open mind to new ideas. You will never be too old to learn.
11. When you stray from your plan, it is ok, start back again the next day.
12. Endurance mentally, physically and spiritually will pay off in the long run financially.
This world is full of negative things that will try to stop you from achieving your goals. Every adult goes through these changes; sooooo you are not by yourself. It is about not giving up for your own self pride, respect and family. You must lead through example and show the world that you are not going to quit striving to achieve your goals.
Follow these steps and you will have a great chance to be a well-rounded adult and a productive citizen who will get a good job to raise their family right. This information only covers a small percent of the hardships the young people must endure. The young black people must realize that if they do as they are told by their parents and other adults, they will go much farther in life compared to those who choose the way of being rebellious and self-centered.
Self-improvement for an individual is important for your self being a well-rounded parent. You need to lead your family through example and if your kids see you really are trying to do what is right, then they will follow the same path. Before you can change these negative habits or ways of living within yourself, you must have the education or knowledge to make the change happen. Negative habits or cycles of living is kept in a person’s subconscious and you must go through the steps that all human beings go through to improve themselves in order to change your subconscious state of mind. The cycles of the past generations or of our history tells us, why we are the way we are and do the things we do. With that information and an open mind to the different technics that is available to us. We can choose which method is best for our beliefs and life style, so we would have an idea of what we need to do, to change who we are.
Dr. Clarks most famous quote is, “History is a clock that the people use to tell their cultural and political time of day and history is a compos people use to find their selves on the map of human geography. History tells the people who they were and where they were as well as whom they are and where they are. The most important roll of history is to tell the people where they must go and where they must be. The relationship between a person and history is the same as the relationship between a child and its mother.”
Decades of studies show that children will be successful in learning when their family shows support for them in every possible way. This means reading to and with your children, helping them with their homework, talking with their teachers and the parents of their friends. You need to take part in their school and youth organization activities. By doing this your child will have a great advantage in learning and will be far ahead of those children who do not get the love, attention, support, and wisdom that every parent is supposed to give their children. They will have the knowledge of how a family works as a team, the wisdom of running a family. If the parent shows the value, use and enjoyment in reading they will know how to teach their children which will lead to being a proud citizen of a hard working community and make you a proud Grandfather.
Education in the Media and Governments
Information gathered by David Dawn
It does not matter what class, race, religion you may be. This will work for everyone because this is the main reason why we are here, living on this earth. There are many cycles in our lives and all of the negative ones we need to change. In order to be a lot more positive we have two separate entities inside all of us with different emotions, the good and the bad, the strong and the weak, the bold and the fearful, the loving and the hateful.
We need to install and promote pride, happiness, self-improvement, stabilization, harmony, leadership and love our self and all the members of our family. We as individual parents have different life styles and different beliefs. We need to keep open minds to new ideas and techniques as time passes and we must change with the times in order to keep an open mind.
Consciousness of our future includes where do we want to be 50 years down the road or what do we want for our grandchildren? We need to know who we are; how we got here and where we are going. You must visualize yourself living in the way that you wish and want to live, the ways you look at others, your job and yourself and you must have real meaning and feeling in your visualization. We need to know where we will be in the future and we must know the future of our grandchildren so we can have a peaceful state of mind.
The cycles of our history affects the present day cycles and our future cycles. We need to know who we are; how we got here and where we are going in order to be a better individual who has a future as or to be like the elite classes who knows where they will be in the future and knows the future of their grandchildren. The cycles of the past generations or of our history tells us why we are the way we are and what we need to do to change who we are. There are cycles for everything which is mental, physical, social, spiritual and in our environment that happens in every different aspect in every part of the world around us. Cycles are in all of these things and they all are connected and in twined. For example, if we should stop one cycle it does affect other cycles that is joined to it to some degree. It is a fact that person cannot improve them self unless they know their history.
Historian Dr. John A. Clark which really tells it all and if you really listen to it you will have begun to see the light of our ancient ancestors. Dr. Clarks most famous quote is, “History is a clock that the people use to tell their cultural and political time of day and history is a compos people use to find their selves on the map of human geography. History tells the people who they were and where they were as well as whom they are and where they are. The most important roll of history is to tell the people where they must go and where they must be. The relationship between a person and history is the same as the relationship between a child and its mother.”
I have learned from my research that I have been studying in the last couple decades is that our lives are really about self-improvement in every aspect; mentally, physically, socially and even financially. In order to do this, we must change ourselves first and be happy with the changes and the environment around us in order to be able to help or receive help from the people around us.
To improve our self as an individual you must know what needs to be changed. Before you can change these negative habits or ways of living with in our selves we must have the education or knowledge to make the change happen. Negative habits or ways of living is kept in a person’s subconscious and we must go through the steps that all people go through to improve themselves.
The cycles of the person are the habits and routines of the person. Most of the time the same habits and routines are passed down from parent to child to grandchild to great grandchild and some of these habits and routines are bad and someone in the family must break the bad cycles. This is the ripple effect that I’m referring to in this world of cycles. These cycles could never end if they are not discovered by you and changed or stopped. What bad habits are passed down in your family?
Self-improvement for an individual is important for our self being. We need to lead your family through example and if your kids see you really trying to do what is right then they will believe and know how to follow the same path. This is why I am referring to raising a family so much. We must think about our children when improving our self.
The governments, privet and religious organizations knew the mechanics of suppressing a person or a race. Through their studies they learn how to fine tune their social controls through positive and negative reinforcement of punishment and rewards. Through controlling our behavior or brainwashing they can control the movement in our daily life, our thinking, seeing and hearing in certain ways which affects us in experiencing the world that is around us.
We live our life according to our social environment and what we see, read and hear from the media. We choose what we want to keep in our minds and that depends on our interest at hand. So I will show you some of the brain washing techniques used by our government, privet and religious originations of our nation as an example, we are affected by the world around us with the rules and beliefs of society, our family, our friends, our work place and our religion. Each one of these influences creates cycles which intertwine with one another and we must live our lives with in these cycles to make things work for your selves and our families. We need to teach our young teenagers about the real world and show them the different cycles so they will know why it is very important for the to learn as much as possible through education to have a better understanding of the rules and expectation of employers, our government, organizations and society.
The FBI and privet organizations knew the mechanics of suppressing a family, race or class is to make them be the instruments of their own oppression. The government controls the TV and newspapers. By studying the cycles of human behavior you can see that if you divide a family, race or class long enough it will be conquered. The information on any plastic card will tell them a lot of different things about the holder of the card and this is for the studies. Through the studies they learn how to fine tune their social controls through positive and negative reinforcement of punishment and rewards or controlling our behavior through brainwashing of movement, thinking, seeing and hearing in certain ways of experiencing the world.
We are far from being equal when you have the net worth spread out in an unevenly amount among the races and because of this, what we have is mental and financial slavery in the true educational sense. The wealth loss ratting for different races from 2005 to 2012 is 15% for the white race, 55% for the black race and 65% for the Latino race. We as individuals, races and different classes of people must work on changing this cycle for our own families. We want our children to have the opportunity to be successful with whole families and not worrying about finances.
When the media refers to the family values, it is not talking about the middle or lower class families but the upper middle and elite white families. There are various types of families. The traditional family meaning married couples with children is only 25% of the American household meaning that is the way it was in the 17 and 1800’s too. In 1970, it was 40%, 1980-30%, and 1991-25%. Now in 2011, it is less than 20%. 29% are married couples without children; 25% are people living alone, and 5% are people just living together that are not related. The media wants you to or has you believing that most families are married couples with children and it is not true. The media creates these images of a normal traditional family and thus creates and hides these problems.
The establishment got smarter by the studies in the past 20 years. Why do aliens who come here have the same health or better than elite? After being here 2 to 3 years and feeling the stress and eating the American food they have the same health problems as blacks who were born here. 100’s of health studies show that the accumulative effect of poor living conditions has an independent effect on health and that causes the excess release of hormones like cortisone build up, which helps plaque buildup in the arteries, which is related to hypertension, which is related to heart disease and strokes. The accumulative affects are called the studies and cycles of weathering which all the doctors and organizations keep hush, hush. This is a form of brain washing via the media and organizations. We as individuals, races and different classes of people must work on changing this cycle for our own families. We want our children to have the opportunity to be successful in life with whole families and not worrying about their health.
The middle and the poor class families find themselves not motivated due to self-blame, self-negativity, self-alienation, self-hatred, loss of self-confidence, which lead to hating yourself because you think the whole world is like that. Once you do get your fill, who do you take it out on? Most of the times it was the helpless; young woman; children; your neighborhood is the target of the anger. When you are going to attack the cause of your anger, frustration and hatred? This was and still is being done through the economics of mental slavery in the true educational sense, brain washing through the cycles of weathering.
In most cases it is not family values that make any family or race successful. It is the government and other organizations subconsciously influencing the social behavior of people. The media will have you believe it is family values and hide the facts it is the government breaks, tax-cuts, loans, and health programs that make families successful. As always, the government promises to fix the problem but just as they did with the American Indians, American slaves and the American troubled youths, the government failed to fulfill their promises. This is a way of keeping our minds on our daily problems. Actually we should be dealing with our inner-self a lot more because it is the key to inter peace, mental and physical health which would lead to unity and wealth for the individual and within the community.
Studies show that half of the surgeries done in America were not needed. Health studies show that the accumulative effect of living in a poor state of mind aided with poor finance has an effect on health. Organizations knew it was just a matter of time before our health started kicking in with stress and poor eating habits. This causes the excess release of hormones like cortisone build up, which helps plaque buildup in the arteries, which is related to hypertension, which is related to heart disease and strokes. The accumulative affects this is called weathering. The doctors, corporations, religious and government organizations are very aware of weathering of a person, race or class. Illnesses can be avoided just changing your negative habit to positive habits and by eating right even though you have the stress of living a poor life. Humans are plant eaters by nature and we need to stay that way in order to stay healthy.
Other countries that have a Plant Base Diet and their people do not have most of the illnesses that are caused by the American diet. It is a proven fact that when people from other countries start switching over to our government recommended diets they start getting all of the diseases related to a high cholesterol diet. A very strict Plant Base Diet has been proven by doctors that it will lower the cholesterol within your body and thus reverse the many different types of cancer, heart disease and other degenerative illnesses. The American medical field is not interested in fixing the cause, just because of the greed for money at our expense. All of the above history is to show you that these are the secrets that the doctors, corporations, religious and government organizations are very aware of and they do not want us to know. We are being misled and brain washed for their profit.
We must not harp on the big picture of life because it has so many different issues which make it mind boggling. We need to make our self the big picture in our life. By worrying about everything is what our leaders want us to do. This way we do not develop our inner self. So we must change our way of thinking. We must change our subconscious state of mind in order to really improve our self.
I have given you some information from different subjects in the hope to show you the big picture of what is happening around this world of ours and the people of the world could not stop or change but you can stop and change yourself. You must bring only positive things in to your life to start improving yourself as an individual. By changing your surroundings and getting rid of as many negative things as you can, this will make it easier to start working on changing your bad habits or negative ways that are in your life. By doing this your family, friends and anyone you may meet throughout your day will be happier towards you and this will make your mental, physical and spiritual self-better with each day. You must make improving yourself to be the big picture in your life.
We must use the secrets of self-improvement in order to enjoy the very basics of life. That is why they say, you are what you eat and you are what you think. So, if we do stay healthy and positive in our thinking we can live a good, happy and full filling life with the ones we love or want to be with. If you want to better yourself we have no choice, we must at least eat more fruit and vegetables and less meat with at least an hour of exercise 3 to 4 times a week. The more you do these things the more you will see the light and live with nature and the universe. To say it in other words you would be living your life closer to God in the way our ancient ancestors did. We are here to improve our self spiritually and not to be living as fearful people worrying about our day to day social troubles. If we live a life worrying then we will not have time to rise to the next spiritual level, which is the master plan.
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